Grooming and Etiquette

Creating a winning professional image. Just like product branding, if customer can fall for the product at the first sight, the branding is successful. In short, first impression. The moment you decide to put behind your specialized skill , you have committed yourself in the naked combat with others, to impress the people you met. Unlike engineering field where you settle amicably in the comfort zone once you developed the expertise that people rarely have, even if the boss is not impress, he still needs your skill to complete the puzzle.

Hence, utmost gratitude to my company for having such session for us. Below is the key areas we should be aware of:

Communication: Visual (body Language) : 58%
Vocal : 38%
Verbal : 7%
Talking about clothes matching, 3 areas to look after:- Warm and cool, Dirty and clean , contrast
Warm colors are more yellowish: brown, cream, teal, olive green, brightred, peach,violet  CANNOT mix with cool colors such as Blue, fresh green, pink, gray, purple. Black/white is neutral/cool.

Dirty/clean :  Pinkish complexion people can wear either all dirty/ clean clothes, but for yellowish people like me =.=" i have to wear clean colors shirt, if not i will become invisible. Colors such as gray blue, light brown will makes me unnoticeable.

Contrast: make sure there is only one pattern from the shirt  and tie, although both can be stripped differently, but only one should be noticed.

Repeat your colours. Edge of calf with "V" area exposed, repeat color of tie

Tie : Length of tie should be at the belt buckle.
Belt should be 2 fingers wide

Hierarchy:
Coat/blazer/suit : Suits that got extra pine strip has higher hierarchy, Younger people goes for 2 vents. Shirt sleeves need to come out from suit slightly, 2 buttons and 3 buttons no different.

Shirt : Plain shirt > Pine > chalk strip shirt in terms of hierarchy. Do not buy Durban/John Master/ Elba which the design is usually not slim fit type. Brands such as Seeds, Padini and Topman should be the choice.The top opening should only allows 2 fingers width

Calf-ling: makes thin and malnourished looking people like me gain the banker look, since i am lack of the round prosperous face.

Pant : Never get the wide/baggy/ too long pants, must be able to allows the sight of butt protrude sharp. No strips/flips at the front. 

Shoes : best with square front, round seems old fashion and makes u look shorter, best with lace called oxford shoes.

Handshakes : while shaking hand, always held your left hand behind customer to be warmer. (forget what purpose d)

Meeting client: always be on your customers right side, cornering tactic and left brain interpretation is more positive

Introduce to people with higher authority first rather than the reverse way. 


More about table etiquette and face cleansing in the later part

Bali Family Trip 2010 -DAY 1

Date  : 14/2 - 17/2 (CNY 2010)
Place : Bali

Participants : Dad, mum, GX,CK, WX + Leanard and me.

KK unable to follow us although tickets already bought.

Transportation
AirAsia =  RM110 round trip per pax.
Bali driver (Ngurah Ketut) for 3 days = RM374

Welcome! This is the first time ever experience for our family to go traveling during CNY.

                    14th Feb 2010 - DAY 1 


On 14th Feb , the first day of CNY, we set off at 9am. We headed to Putrajaya Lakeside Seafood for lunch and Yee Sang session.

The beautiful lakeside scenery at Putrajaya Seafood Restaurant

Mum is making the funny pose

"Huat arrrR!! "

Dad got a coupon for beer and Yee Sang.

"Gong Xi Fat Choy!!! "  
From the Tan's family.

Next we parked our car at Putrajaya Central as this is the only place where you can park for FREE and security patronizing the car park hourly, connected to KLIA via KLIA Express.
We took KLIA Express to the airport.

I traveled in MAS because AirAsia ticket price had gone up so much when i wanted to purchase.
I was upgraded to MAS business class when there is no more economy seats. Wahoo!





First time ever in the business seat. a crew specially reserved to serve the eight of us in business class. The food and beverages menu are also different from economy. Luxurious!

I arrived at Bali 2 hours earlier than them. (MH853 1450-1710). I hired a taxi to check into Kuta Tune Hotel to check whether the room condition is acceptable.
I waited at Ngurah Rai Bali Int Airport arrival hall impatiently, looking at the announcement board impatiently.


Their AirAsia flight - AK366 1700-2010, finally landed at Bali. They walked out at 8:30pm, smiling faces and excited breathing the Balinese air despite an exhausting day.

"Welcome to Bali!"  the eye catching board welcoming our arrival to this Romantic land with golden rays of sunset.

Our driver, Ngurah Ketut was at the airport waiting for us with my name on his little board which he is waving frantically. He could hardly understand English, luckily we are able to communicate in Bahasa.

Accommodation at Kuta Tune Hotel is RM35 per night per room with 12 hours aircon.
My parents love the bed and shower in Tune Hotel, they pointed out : " We only spend a night in the hotel, as long as the aircon, bed and shower is super good which I am more than happy!"
WX said :" The powerful shower washed away my ache/sore, the 5star bed recharged my body to its MAX!"

I knew 2 nights stay in Kuta and Legian Tune is the perfect choice.
"Again, Tony is on the right track.." I think.

After everyone bathed, we had our dinner Made Warung, recommended by forums and travel books for its avocado juice. After a filling and sumptuous meal, the bill was RM89.01.

"It is definitely not cheap." dad commented on our first meal.
We nodded in agreement.
The first day ended with our taste buds satisfied by the creamy avocado juice. yummMMMY!!!

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                  15th Feb -  DAY2

The bed is too comfortable making everyone too lazy to wake up. Before 9pm, Ngurah was waiting in the hotel lobby. We had a simple breakfast, which the food is the most awful and cost us RM52!
We began moving north. We stopped at a handicraft market on our way north. Shopping haven for the ladies. Bought bracelets, shorts, shawls etc We reached Kintamani at 2pm for buffet lunch. We missed the spectacular volcanic mountain view due to heavy mist and clouds. The wind is chilling and environment comfortable.


Next we visited coffee/coco plantation. An educational trip here, to see how the coffee beans are cooked.

闲言闲语

A 君，很合眼缘，共处的时光里，几乎无所不谈。
或许他是很好的聆听者，无论吃饭，读书，游戏，出街总是让我在发表“博士“伟论，
我也借此管道宣泄我爱分享的个性。
他总是默默的在听，不时来几句赞美语，让我一发不可收拾。
  我的以为认识了投缘的知己了。


A 君呢，其实十分好胜，这也许造就他今日的成功。
  他有着那种要超越周围人的企图心，
曾经说过，“证明给我看你多强，我会强过你“
  我不以为意，只觉得这是健康的学术竞争。

慢慢的， 他开始与我的朋友组织关系，
   他组织朋党，
   我越来越少受邀出去，
   我被边缘化了，
   我的曝光率少了， 
   我几乎被遗忘了，
   可笑的是，我浑然不知，
A 君仍常常伴我左右，
我一厢情愿的以为我和A君异常投缘。

直到有次聚会，几位昔日的好友突然冷言相待，
身为知情者的他呆坐在旁，也不肯出言相助 。
我开始怀疑事有蹊跷，
   又发现好几次A君借故离开，说有约会，我以为是他女友，
   谁知都是整班我们的朋友， 为何就不能叫买我一起去呢？

   慢慢的发现，我对他的了解十分有限，而他对我的背景却了如指掌。
   他之所以默默聆听，或许是要了解对手，
孙子兵法：知己知彼，百战百胜。
   眼见学术上无法超越对手， 只好从其他方面下手。

其实，或许是我说话的嚣张，锋芒毕露而招来憎恨和嫉妒，
对我来说，我毫发未损，损失不大，
本也无需理会他。

   我有感而发的是人类的 “好胜心“
   这好胜心本事好事，能鞭策人努力向上，激励自我。 
   但是，若经过鞭策和激励后仍无法达到理想的位置时，
   情况会否因此起了一百八十度转变？
   为了超越对手，趋向极端，　甚至不择手段造成毁灭性的伤害也在所不惜。
   岂不可怕？
   水能载舟，依能覆舟。

   就看个人的本性了！

现实生活中，无论政治和职场上不乏口蜜腹剑，笑里藏刀之辈，为了权利和金钱，不惜接近对手借以除之而后快。

这不愧是个社会大学！