RHB Warrior - Associates Teambuilding

Date : 24th-26th feb2011 ( Thurs - Sun)
Venue : Jeram Besu , Pahang
Participants : MAP3 and CAP2
Activities :
24th :
War Game - from 4pm - 7am (next morning)
25th :
Water confidence
White water rafting at Sg kuala Lipis
East India trade game

26th
Lost : Making square antenna in blind
Overcoming fear
Winner


War game, water confidence and white water rafting are physical activities that is fun and promote teamwork
Although this is my second war-game, after the first one in PD last year, I am still fear of terrorist.
Fear, that is probably one of the unspoken reason that I played on defensively.
Fear, is not just during the game, it is in the everyday life too.
I am intimidated/scared when I felt challenged by someone who is having higher status, physically stronger and have a louder voice.
The question about overcoming fear was finally raised.
Fear, not only grows in me, everyone has it, some choose to live under the fog of fear, some tried to escape,

Somehow similarly and coincidentally,

One of my friend, she stepped out and talked about her confidence level. From the day she joined, she was pumped with full confidence until now she is someone with the confidence shattered completely.
It can be tell from her eye contact, body language etc.
What happened?
She lost the confidence people around her are more competitive, have more confident and stronger than her.
She had always been winning, she is almost leading the race until the confident opponent appears...
Did she lose the race to the confident opponent or she lose it to herself?

Fear does not exist in us, it has to be programmed.
Who programmed it? Its us!
We, the owner programmed it into our mind, which can save us from danger,
However, there are times we over-programmed it.
So we un-programmed it by breaking the unnecessary fear,
We break the fear just like breaking a solid pencil with ONE finger!
Sounds disbelievingly? If you believe you can, you can!

To my dear friend who had lost her confidence,
You are now into another stage of growth, with stronger competitor to push you over your current limit
Stronger opponent either crush you or makes you stronger!
Is your choice,

If the situation control your confidence,
you will only lead people weaker than you forever, and you can hardly improve.

However if your confidence control the situation;
stronger opponent will unleash your desire to grow,
it will makes you grow rapidly to be at par with your opponents.

Everyone is actually unique,
Different management styles will have different impact in each scenario.
There is no one for all solution.

For example, you may sounds cocky and determined,
people may think you are over-confident,
That's all their perception,
to evaluate your management effectiveness, here is the 4-4-2 rules

If in any case you have 40% loyal supporter under your style,
you are then on the right track to refine it, perfect and strengthen this style.
The next 40% will joins you gradually when you are confidence to stick to your style and refine it.
The final 20% will never join you, they will try to oppose whatever thing you say,
so why care for that 20%?

The great President Obama was reported to win the US 2008 election with deep and broad victory, however it is just merely 52% support !

So, if you are thinking of getting more than 52% of the support in your organization, you can actually set your goal to become the next president of US, because so far only the great Obama achieves that!

Look around you, you actually have so many supporters, there just want to see you are confident, and they will follow you.
Great leader makes right decision, nobody cares whether it is right or wrong, they follow!

My dear friend,
you are the great leader of tomorrow,
the competitors around you are meant to improve and upgrade your skill sets.
Climb up from where you fell,
And you will strive confidently than ever.

Ugly duckling

Ugly duckling - the book i read when I was 6 yrs old. Particularly love the happy ending.

A little bird was born in a barn with a swarm of ducklings. The fur is dark and uneven. It is always bully by its' barn mate because it looked different and ugly.Until one day it grows up and turned into a beautiful swan, wading solemnly in the pond with the swan family. The ducklings which they grown up together, felt shocked and ashamed, because the ugly duckling had turned into a graceful swan.

Now,

Lets probe into further detail, how does the ugly duckling feels when it was bullied? What if the ugly duckling turned into an ugly clumsy duck rather than a swan? How long does it takes for the ugly duckling to evolve into a swan?

Being bullied, the ugly duckling will definitely feel uneasy and unhappy. When the situation persist, the ugly duckling  begins to lose its confident, it will walk with head down and scare to look at others. As it never knows it will turn into a swan one day.When the day come and it evolve into a swan, it still waddle like a duck.. Other ducklings will now laugh harder at the 'queer duck' or may think it is "a duck in swan outfit".  What if the day never arrive, is the ugly duckling going to bow its head for the rest of its life?

In the next scenario, the ugly duckling who is belittled by it's mates, instead of losing confident, it is now trying to prove to the mates that  it is a swan. How? The ugly duckling begin to walk and waddle like a swan, although it is a duck. What happened? The mates may still smirk at it, but all the passerby will thought it is a swan wading in the pond. Finally? Everyone assume it as a swan although it may be born as a duck.

Born-loser in the first scenario, but Born-winner in the latter.

Dear ugly duckling, ya I am referring to you, people may think we are slow learner, weak, incompetent, incapable and looked dumb and stupid, but why cares about their perception? Those who think/say that will not donate to make you success.

"Just as i said" they thought when you become a swan that still looks like a duck.

Now its all up to you, whether you want to be swan.

You may not end up becoming a swan, but should be close to that. 

There will be a higher chances when you choose to believe.

That's what I learned from Hans Andersen in his famous fairy tale today.